In today’s culture, we see people responding to open and active homosexuality on a wide gamut from affirming acceptance to gay bashing. The former comes out of an “enlightened” modernistic creed of individualism and lack of transcendent authority concerning human sexuality: the latter stems from a fallen human instinct to abhor and reject what is different. Neither response is Christian.
The Christian response is wisdom, grace and unconditional love. Paul writes in Colossians 4:5-6, "Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. 6 Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned, as it were, with salt, so that you may know how you should respond to each person." In the face of active and open homosexuality, the Christian response is God’s kind of love- the same Agape love Jesus had for the Samaritan woman at the well even while she was still in her aberrant lifestyle, or Nicodemus even in his confusion about Kingdom Truth, or beloved Matthew even while he was still deep in his sin as a tax collector and extorter.
We in the Church should allow the love of Christ to flow through us such that gays turn to Him and not away from Him. We should also be aware that many who find themselves with same-sex attractions do in fact live quiet lives under Biblical principles in celibacy and great commitment and devotion to our Lord. May these brothers and sisters find their church family supportive, encouraging and loving.